How To Avoid Scams While Seeking Friends With Benefits Online

These days, a steam encounter is literally one app or website away! Thanks to modern technology, you don’t have to a bar to find a willing partner for one night of fun anymore. You can easily swipe left on a hottie that’s willing to meet up for a steamy night of fun or chat with an online friend at a specialty hookup website. But while this sounds fun and extremely satisfying (in more ways than one), it’s not with out its potential dangers.

If you’ve been a member of the online dating community for a while now, you already know how easy it is to get scammed from fake profiles or individuals using inaccurate pictures and the like. These scammers take advantage of your desire for a quick hookup and have bad alternative motives the minute they first contact to you to try and connect.

Because scammers are abundant online these days, it’s imperative that you stay safe so that you can enjoy your steamy hookups and continue to have a great experience when utilizing these hookup sites and apps. You’ll need to be able to identify what a scam looks like so that you can avoid one if you see any red flags when talking to someone you meet online. Here are a few warning signs to be on the lookout for so that you can maximize your pleasure and experience when looking for friends with benefits or casual hookups online.

They’re too attractive to be on an online hookup site.

The first red flag you should be aware of is the fact that they are insanely hot. It’s quite rare for a super attractive person to be on a casual hookup site. Sure, you’ll find some attractive people on them, but the chances are, it’s a fake profile. If you’re still willing to communicate with them because you can’t get over how hot they look, make sure they don’t want you to send them money first. Nine chances out of 10, the gorgeous person will want you to send them “gifts” before meeting up with you. If you get a message back like this, then it’s for sure a scammer trying to get money from you before they delete the account and try to do it all over again to the next person.

The profile information sounds fake.

When it comes to online dating, your profile is the first thing people read and see, so it’s normal to want to have an amazing one. But sometimes, these scammers go over board and their entire profile is obviously fake. There’s no way they could have been hanging around celebrities as they said they do in their pictures or be a millionaire as their profiles text claims. Be careful with profiles that claim they have money to offer partners and the like. If the account seems too good to be true then it obviously might be!

Ask to meet up with you before you’ve ever communicated with them.

Be weary of profiles that immediately ask to meet up with them even before you’ve had a chance to talk for a bit. Many scammers are direct and straight to the point, ready to pounce on people looking for a quick hookup. If you get a message from someone that has a phone number or other form of information and doesn’t want to chat first, it may be someone looking to scam you (or worse) once you finally meet up with them in person.

Bad English and grammar.

No one is perfect when it comes to language and grammar, but if you see that a profile has horrible English and it’s broken, then it could be a huge warning sign that might be trying to scam you. Native speakers don’t speak broken English at all, so be sure to avoid these accounts at all costs.

They claim to be traveling internationally.

If you get a message from an account saying that they are traveling internationally and want to visit you, they might be totally fake. These accounts are trying to hide that they’re actually scammers and think that you’re more likely to engage with them if you think they are traveling internationally. Only agree to meet up with people that you can verify before, such as via a video chat.

As always, never provide any private contact information on your profile to avoid scammers from targeting you! And be safe when meeting up for steamy, one-night hookups!

Key Rules For a Friend With Benefits Relationship


Usually, Friends-with-benefits is a term used to define two friends who decide to start having sex with each other.

Not to be confused with “no strings attached” relationships, friends with benefits relationship are typically relationships that are a bit lighter on the “together “side of things.

Where two people who are “together” will be seen as dating, and so have all the markings of a couple, friends with benefits are not a couple.

Why do people go into friends-with-benefits relationships?

There are several reasons why people decide to go into a friends-with-benefits relationship.

Some enter into it because they desire a sexual relationship without the commitment of an intimate, couple-like relationship.

Others prefer to have a friends-with-benefits relationship because it does not involve so much commitment.

To some, it beats being with a new person totally or having to change sex partners often, while others simply enjoy the mix of friendship, sexual intimacy without the “couple” label.

Whether you make a conscious decision to have sex with your friend or you fall into it (the first time), moving from friendship to a sexual relationship can be a tricky thing.

The best way to handle the change in relationship status is to have a clear understanding of what exactly you are both getting into.

What kinds of key rules when going into a friends-with-benefits relationship are?

Always be on the same page. When you decide to go into friends with benefits relationship with a friend, you have to be sure that your friend is aligned. It will be awkward if you feel there is some chemistry between yourselves and your friend doesn’t. Where a friends-with-benefits relationship will make sense to you, it might completely turn them off. On the other hand, if your friend has deeper feelings for you, a friends with benefits relationship might not be what they are looking for. Before you put yourself in that position, it is best to either feel them out or ask them directly what they think about it.

Set boundaries. One of the problems most friends-with-benefits relationships face, is the inability to know where to draw the line. Boundaries will clearly define where you are and where you wish to go. The thought of leaving personal articles at each other’s place might seem too coupley to one person and the other might not be bothered by it. Have a clear discussion on what the boundaries are and should be.

Decide on exclusivity. Do you intend to be monogamous or not? Are you allowed to have sex with other persons? These are issues that should be discussed.

Tone down the intimacy. Yes, you are friends, but now you are also having sex. Sex has a way of increasing affection. As long as you both decide to be casual about the relationship, it is best to avoid excess cuddling and PDAs that might lead to deeper emotions and feelings. Keeping it light is the key word here.

 Communication is key. Even though you are not a couple, you are still in a relationship, this means that you have to keep the lines open. Communication needs to be constant especially when feelings change. It is quite possible (and almost expected) that one person develops deeper feelings for the other, things can go sour if they choose to express their desire for a change of the agreement rather than just voice it out. In your communications, be honest. Getting jealous of a significant other? Speak up, want something more? Speak up!  

Keep the friendship alive. While having sex, keep the friendship alive. As sexual partners, your sex life will seep into your friendship, if you are not careful, you will ruin your friendship. This is why it is best to always be on the same page and to always share your feelings about the relationship. Should the friends with benefits relationship threaten to tear your friendship apart, then it is time to make a new decision.

Do not take them as surrogate partners. Remember the part of not getting too intimate? This is equally important. Your friends with benefits partner is not a stand-in partner in any way. Do not take them to intimate functions or gatherings that are meant for your significant other. Doing this might send the wrong message. This can only work if you are both clear on where you stand.

This post is posted on GetMyBuzzUp.